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Sex in front of the mirror is attractive for many people - but you should know that in advance.
#Mirror, mirror, on the wall... mirror sex will drive you crazy!
Okay, admittedly, I googled what rhymes with “wall” and up came this cringe masterpiece. So let's quickly forget about my half-hearted attempt at being poets and do what we're good at: chatting about sex. Today is about – well? Sex in front of the mirror. I don't know what makes you tick, but I think mirror sex is hot, hot, hot.
Have you ever had sex with your partner in front of a mirror? Then you can definitely understand my enthusiasm. First of all, there is the visual aspect. While our view in traditional intercourse is usually limited to a POV perspective from which we can view our fellow player as well as parts of our own body, a mirror can offer a truly all-round experience. We understand the goings-on as a whole, can look at each other from the other's point of view, perceive our movements, see the interaction of the bodies. A kind of peep show in which we ourselves are the main actors and spectators at the same time.
Also extremely exciting: We can not only feel, hear and taste our partner's excitement, but also see it. Something that is not possible in every position. Let's say you're fucking your lover doggy style. Then it remains hidden, the way you look , the way you bite your lip, the way your eyebrows draw together, the way you close your eyes with pleasure. In the mirror, however, all of this is visible. This strengthens the partnership's intimacy and ensures more closeness.
There is actually a name for the preference for mirror sex: we call it catoptronophilia or mirror fetish when we are excited by watching ourselves and/or our counterpart in the mirror during sexual acts. If there is no partner, masturbating in front of the mirror is sufficient. By the way, you don't have to have a fetish for this. If it makes you horny, don't let it stop you.
Sure, the mirror on the bedroom ceiling, which we know from sexy 70s and 80s films, is the ultimate for mirror sex fans. But it can also be more subtle. A large standing mirror next to or in front of the end of the bed can be a real upgrade for those asleep hours. Because it's also a great place to watch while chatting. The only important thing is that the mirror is either securely mounted on the wall or has a rock-solid stand.
Are there positions that are specifically suitable for mirror sex? Well, that depends on a) the placement of your mirror and b) your sexual preferences. If you are one of the lucky ones whose ceiling is sturdy enough to mount a sex mirror, even the missionary position can become a kinky adventure - especially for the person lying below.
If the mirror is on the side, in front of or behind the bed, almost anything is also suitable. Doggy, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, missionary… you decide. If the focus is to be on the body, I recommend positioning the mirror on the side. If it turns you on to look at your partner's face (or at your partner's breasts) during doggy sex, it's a good idea to put the mirror in front of or behind the bed. The main thing is somehow frontal.
The thought of mirror sex turns you on and equally unsettles you because you don't feel 100 percent comfortable in your body? Or because you're afraid your sex face will embarrass you? All legitimate fears. Of course, you can also refuse if your partner tries to persuade you to have a round of fucking in front of the mirror. Please don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
If the whole thing still appeals to you, do Baby Steps . Some of my sexpert colleagues recommend first masturbating alone in front of the mirror and getting used to the horny sight of yourself. Because in most cases it is foreign to us. The dry run can ensure that we learn to let ourselves go and, yes, to enjoy ourselves, our own reflection.
If the solo dress rehearsal isn't your thing (I can't do anything with it, for example) and you'd rather go all out straight away, make sure the lighting is dimmed. This makes everything appear softer, wrinkles, rolls and other supposed flaws appear as if they have been filtered. A side note: They look wonderful. You can still get to grips with floodlighting.
One final tip: clean your mirror before you start. I guarantee you that a saying like “Well, you could just clean your mirror again” is quite a mood killer.
Stains and a thick layer of dust are a no-go. You should avoid using conventional glass cleaners, as these can attack the silver layer in the mirror. Coarse dirt can be removed with shaving foam, which you leave on for a few minutes, and paper towels. You can get rid of stubborn stains with a little high-proof alcohol.
Enjoy the show.
Mimi Erhardt is a sex columnist for GQ and GQ Germany
[via GQ Germany]
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